Meeting the demands of parenthood takes focus. Sometimes just the simplest tip from someone more experienced than we happen to be can help us attain that focus. That is the intent of the tips provided below. They will provide the focus that so many of us need to step out there and meet the challenge of parenthood.
A useful tip for any parent is to resist the urge to do everything for your children. Instead, help your kids learn to do things on their own. In this way, they will develop an invaluable sense of confidence in their own skills and abilities and grow into capable, independent adults.
If you have a toddler who is throwing a tantrum, make a “safety fort” out of a blanket or towel thrown over a chair. Many times, toddler tantrums are related to over-stimulation, and removing the stimulation by blocking it out can help. It provides your toddler with a safe space in which they can regroup and calm down.
Consider the message that your child is receiving from you. Speaking honestly to your children will build their trust in you.
If you have two or more children in the house, enlist the help of older siblings to care for the younger ones. Older siblings can help with playtime and can even monitor bath times (depending on their age). If you have a teenager and a young child, you might also be able to benefit from lower cost babysitting and teach your older child some responsibility in the process.
In order for your child to feel a sense of belonging in the household, it is important that they share tasks around the home so they feel they are contributing. Tasks assigned should be appropriate to the age of the child so they do not become overwhelmed and get discouraged.
While going through a divorce with younger children, it is important to give them only the information that is necessary for them to understand. No excess information should be given to the young children or it could hurt their impression of the parent. Your kids should not feel any effect of their parents divorce, even though they always do.
Don’t smoke in a home where your kids are living. In fact, this may be the time to just quit smoking for the sake of your own health and your child’s. The effects of secondhand smoke can often be as bad as smoking a cigarette directly. Second-hand smoke is responsible for a multitude of health issues in a child, including bronchitis, asthma, pneumonia and other respiratory problems.
If you are concerned about germs and stickiness on your child’s plastic and rubber toys but don’t have the time to clean and dry each one, throw them in a mesh laundry bag and run them through your washing machine with a dye-free, fragrance-free detergent. Easy in, easy out!
By focusing on goals and breaking them down into specific steps, we can accomplish what may initially seem to be the impossible. Sometimes that is something as simple as teaching a toddler to tie their shoes. Other times it might be as complex as comforting our grieving teen when they have broken up with their boyfriend.