Having a new child is a wonderful beautiful thing that can fill you with so much happiness and joy. Late at night though it can also fill you with terror. It is a lot of pressure to be responsible for someone’s life. We’ve compiled a few tips to help you through some of the issues that can come up.
Do not let your children gang up on you. If you are a typical couple than once you reach three children they will already outnumber you and your spouse. One good technique to avoid this is to have confrontations with children one and one. This prevents the giggles from setting in and you are able to maintain your authority.
Although children may be temperamental there is no such thing as a bad child. If your child is constantly disobedient and disrespectful, that says much more about you than it does your children. Just like you had to learn Algebra you must learn how to raise a child. There are many resources available for you.
Raising teenagers can be a challenging task, but there are some approaches that may help. For example, instead of lecturing them you should try to discuss issues with them. Make the teenager feel free to speak, provide an open forum to exchange ideas. You will find this positive approach to parenting will work wonders with your teen.
Look into the latest in baby monitors for your little one. You can program these new gadgets to call your smart phone whenever there is any kind of noise in your baby’s room. It is a great way to get a bit of work done while you baby naps, and get the alert that your baby wants you when she wakes.
Teach your child through example. You cannot successfully teach your children right from wrong if you are constantly doing the things that you tell your child are wrong to do. They are bound to follow your lead so keep you actions and words in check when those little eyes and ears are upon you.
Never taunt or belittle your child, even in a joking manner. A child’s self esteem is nurtured or injured from the beginning of life by his parents. Instead of telling your child, “You did that wrong”, try saying “Good job! Now let’s try to do it another way.” The smile you receive from this positive comment will tell you how much your child counts on you to develop positive feelings about life.
For an alternative to traditional timeouts, make a “mind jar” by filling a mason jar with water and a scoop of glitter. Tighten the lid securely. When your child needs some time to reflect on his or her actions or feels angry, shake the jar to stir the glitter, and have your child sit and hold the jar as he or she watches the glitter fall to the bottom. By the time the glitter settles, your child’s mood will have settled, too.
Hopefully you’ve started to breathe now. You can parent and you are going to do a great job at it. We all make mistakes now and then, it’s those mistakes that help us learn the tips we’ve given you. Keep learning and keep loving your child and you will raise a happy healthy child.