Parenting is an extremely difficult thing for most people. Babies don’t come with instruction manuals when they’re born, so many people are stuck fumbling around in the dark as they try to raise their children to be respectable adults. The following tips should give you direction when it comes to raising your children.
When training your child to use the potty, buy them underwear with their favorite cartoon character on it. Children always do better with encouragement. By letting them wear these kind of underwear, they will feel better about using the potty because they do not want to have an accident in their “special” underwear.
Don’t force your child to study only one subject at a time. Studies show that humans learn better if they study two or more subjects at a time. This gives the brain a short period of rest to absorb material, and our brains also learn more effectively when subjects are integrated.
Do not spank your child, no matter what they may have done wrong. Spanking actually has a negative effect on your child. It could cause him or her to fear you and when they get older, they will think that hitting is okay. In the long run, spanking can cause a child to become violent.
If your child is not having an easy time cutting teeth, try putting cucumbers, carrots, or sour pickles in their mesh teether. The taste will tempt your child to chew for longer and this method can be used safely along with other strategies. The longer a child uses this tasty teether, the more relief they will feel and the happier you both will be.
When your child is acting out, ask yourself if he or she possibly needs some one-on-one attention. If you have been caught up on the computer or phone or have otherwise been occupied, give your child ten undivided minutes of your time. This may ward off a full-blown tantrum and reminds your child that he or she is worthy of your attention.
If you find out that your child is being bullied at school, it is important that you remain calm in front of them. Comforting them and letting them know how special they are to you can help ease the embarrassment and emotional pain that the bully has caused your child.
You must be consistent when it comes to rewards AND punishments. If your daughter gets in trouble for coming home past curfew, but your son only gets a slap on the wrist, your daughter will see the unfairness and rebel. Treat all your children equally, both for good activities and bad ones.
When your child’s behavior is unacceptable, ensure that the consequences fit, and that they are immediate. Taking away or granting age-appropriate privileges is a good way to provide rewards or consequences. Remember, a punishment that is overly harsh may backfire, because your child loses the motivation to improve his or her behavior. Being too lenient teaches your child whom you are not serious.
Parenting may be a difficult and confusing, but it’s well worth it. These tips should help give you a starting point for raising your children. While it may not have covered everything, you should at least come out with more knowledge and a better plan than you came in with.