Parenting is both a challenging and a rewarding aspect of life. The tips that follow are designed to minimize the challenges and increase the rewards. By following through with them, you are certain to increase your parenting skills and create a better relationship with your children.
Use a pump or hand express milk if you are engorged and the baby is not ready to eat when breastfeeding. There are few things more painful to a new mother than having produced too much milk and not having a way to release it. Our bodies gradually start to produce only what is needed for the baby but it takes a little while to regulate. By expressing some of the milk you can reduce the pain until baby’s next meal.
Develop a support network of people you can call for help with breastfeeding. The early days after giving birth are stressful and tiring. It is very tempting to just get a bottle and hope it works when things start going wrong. If you have a strong support system in place ,you will be able to contact them for advice and support. That support will make you less likely to give up and go for the bottle.
Children often unconsciously reflect the image that parents project upon them, so make sure that whatever label you choose to apply to your child, it is a positive one. Instead of responding to a complaint of boredom with, “You’re driving me crazy, find something to keep yourself busy”, opt for a more encouraging directive: “You’ve always been such a great artists. Why don’t you try coloring or drawing for a few minutes?”
Never administer medication to your child for any “off-label” conditions unless the child’s doctor has given you specific written instructions to do so. Children do not always react to medication in the same way adults do. For instance, giving a child Benadryl to help induce sleep might actually have the opposite effect of hyperactivity.
Help the child to develop routines by establishing a schedule very early. If you give them specific times for different events they will begin to naturally adjust to these times. This will help to make shower, eating and bedtimes much easier. The child will also feel more secure.
When your children quarrel, take the opportunity to teach them to respect the other child’s personal boundaries, to help resolve the problem. You can help them learn to respect personal boundaries by first giving them the words to express their own boundaries. Your child can then protect his or her boundaries by moving away from the problem.
When raising teenagers, it may seem as if you are always focusing on the negative things they do. It is important to take some time out and praise them for some of their positive accomplishments. If all they hear is negative, it pushes them down, try some positive reinforcement; you will like the results you get from your teen.
The suggestions given here are sure to help you develop better parenting skills, and help you to have the relationship with your children that you desire. You have already made the crucial choice to prioritize the relationship between you and your children. This choice will pay off for years to come.